There are plenty of benefits to having anal sex. Women are more likely to have an orgasm, it can treat erectile dysfunction in men, and it improves intimacy with your partner.
So, you know you want to try it. But you may not know how to prepare for anal sex.
It is not only about knowing how to clean yourself. You need to prepare for the emotional aspect as well as for the physical act. But once you have got the basics down, you should also prepare to have a lot of fun!
This guide covers all the anal sex tips first-timers need to know.
Talk to Your Partner
You may be ready to try anal sex, but that does not mean your partner is. Do not spring the idea on them while you are fooling around! Talk to your partner beforehand to see if they would be into it.
Chances are, if they have not brought up the idea themselves, that they have some reservations. They might be feeling self-conscious or have other concerns. Have an honest conversation and see if you can ease their worries.
Whatever you do, never pressure your partner into a sex act they do not want to try. Let them know they are in control and it is 100% their decision. If they do not give enthusiastic consent, they are not giving any consent.
Try Anal Masturbation
Even though you are sure you want to see what all the fuss is about, you may be feeling nervous about anal sex too. One way to prepare for anal sex is to try it by yourself first.
Buy some anal sex toys and explore your body. Butt plugs and vibrators are great anal sex toys and will help you to get used to the sensation.
Remember to start slow and find what feels good for you.
You might want to spice things up more and bring the toys into the bedroom if your partner is okay with it! Always remember to clean your sex toys between uses.
Learn How to Clean Your Rear
When learning how to prepare for anal sex, people are often most concerned with how to clean themselves.
It is up to you how clean you want to be. Anal sex is not less hygienic than vaginal sex and it is not a “dirty” act. Preparing for anal sex could be as simple as a quick wipe or as complex as an enema.
How to Give Yourself an Enema
Some prefer to be as clean as possible before anal sex. This involves giving yourself an enema. Do not attempt your first enema right before your first time trying anal sex.
Try it a couple of times by yourself so you get the hang of it. Perform the enema one or two hours before the sex act.
Step one: Empty your bowels. It helps to have a bowel movement before your enema so you stay clean longer.
Step two: Rinse your douche and fill the bulb with warm water. Using cold water will make you clench.
Step three: Attach the nozzle to the bulb and lube the nozzle.
Step four: Lie on your side with your knees bent or on all fours, like the table-top yoga position. Squeeze the bulb, hold it for 10-15 seconds and release it into the toilet.
Step five: Repeat as many times as necessary and clean your douche.
Remember, you only need to clean around 15cm into your colon. If you squeeze water any deeper it may not release until much later on. Then things could get very messy!
Eat and Drink the Right Things
It might be overkill if you pay close attention to everything you eat if you start having anal sex a lot. But if anal sex is a special occurrence, you might want to pay attention to what you eat so you can empty your bowels beforehand.
It is important to eat some protein, not too much, and lots of fiber. Try not to eat anything at all four hours before you plan on having anal sex.
Water is your best friend when it comes to emptying your colon. If you are having trouble moving things along, drink lots of water.
Prepare Any Equipment You Might Need
Anal sex, like any type of sex, requires equipment. If you are not in a monogamous relationship or either you or your partner have not had a recent STI test, you should wear condoms.
Condoms are also useful if you would like to try anal fingering but do not want to get messy. Putting down a towel is a great idea so you can protect your bedsheets from body fluids.
One of the most important things to remember when learning how to prepare for anal sex is to use lube. Unlike vaginal sex, there is no natural lubrication!
You can use water or silicone-based lubes but using CBD lubricants can increase sensation in the area.
Start With Anal Foreplay (and Regular Foreplay)
It is likely that you would not have vaginal sex without enjoying a bit of foreplay beforehand. So do not dive into anal sex without warming up first!
If you have never tried rimming or anal fingering before, now is a great time. As with any foreplay, let your partner know what you do and do not like.
Don’t forget about regular foreplay too! Associating the pleasure you feel with tried and tested sex acts with anal sex may help you enjoy it more.
Make Sure You Relax
The most important thing in preparing for anal sex is to relax. If you are the receiver, you have much more chance of enjoying the act if you feel at ease.
And if you aren’t, it is much more likely to hurt or feel uncomfortable. One bad experience may be enough to put you off trying it again.
Now You Know How to Prepare for Anal Sex!
That is everything you need to know on how to prepare for anal sex. It is fun to try something new in the bedroom. And with these tips, you are bound to feel more relaxed and clean and more likely to enjoy yourself.
As long as you communicate with your partner, they should too!
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