Men are a walking contradiction. On the surface they’re quite easy to understand and live with. However, they are simultaneously a walking enigma. They like to say that women are complicated beings, but in the same breath, very few men truly understand themselves. If you’d like to get a better understanding of your man and his sexuality, then read on as we explore the subject in greater depth.
He may not want sex as much as you might think
There’s a common stereotype that men always want to have sex. There is an element of truth to this depending on their age and virility. However, it’s important to understand that no two men are the same. In general, a man’s sexual appetite tends to calm down as he gets older, whereas the opposite is generally true for women.
Around the age of 35, a man’s testosterone levels will slowly begin to decrease and this can have an affect on his sex drive.
Diet and lifestyle have a huge effect on a man’s sex drive
This is true for people of all genders. However, in men, sexual performance is closely linked to their diet and lifestyle. If your man has been struggling with his libido or maintaining an erection during sex, then you should take a look at his lifestyle and see if there is a connection.
For example: men who smoke, drink excessive alcohol, rarely exercise, and eat too much junk food will have an incredibly low sex drive. So, if you want him to have a bigger appetite for sex, then you should consider talking to him about his lifestyle habits.
Many men have hidden bisexual tendencies
Bisexuality in women has long been celebrated (or largely fetishized), however, for men, the topic has always been subject to scrutiny. This is largely due to religious and cultural ideals that suggest that a “real man” should be straight, and that any man who has any sexual desire for other men, no matter how mild, is un-masculine. This puts a tremendous amount of pressure on the large percentage of men who have repressed sexual desires that often go unexplored.
If you’d like to better understand where your partner sits on the sexual spectrum the best thing that you can do is talk to him about it. He might not be so forthcoming at first, but if there is an element of curiosity there, he may be receptive to discussing it with you. Another great way of tapping into these aspects of his sexuality is with sex toys for males. While he may not be interested in men, he may be curious to try some anal play but simply be too ashamed or afraid to broach the subject with you.
Sex and love aren’t as closely linked for men as they are for women
The experience for men and women when it comes to sex is very different. If you look at this from a biological perspective, you’ll better be able to understand it. Please note that we wholeheartedly understand that the following “roles” do not apply to everyone. However, for the sake of argument we are going to look at men and women in their basest of ‘traditional’ biological functions.
- The male of the species has a role to play: impregnate fertile females and pass on their genes.
- The female of the species is primarily bound to foster new life and rear their children into healthy and independent people.
Again, this doesn’t apply to everyone, but a large percentage of the population have these functions wired into their DNA. As such, when a male ejaculates, his body responds very differently to women. Females on the other hand, when they climax produce oxytocin (and during childbirth as well), which fosters psychological effects influencing social behaviour and emotion thus forming feeling of attachment.
In other words, if your partner seems distant or uninterested during sex, it’s not because they don’t love you or are no longer interested in you. They just need time to replenish their testosterone levels.