WE’VE all seen the steamy movies where two people slam together fuelled by lust, rip each other’s clothes off and within 30 seconds they’ve both reached orgasm – at exactly the same time.
Unfortunately for most of us, reaching the big “O” takes a bit more work and a bit more time than that.
Only 65 per cent on women usually orgasm during sex compared to 95 per cent of men
Have you heard of the “orgasm gap”? This is the phenomenon where men are twice as likely to come from heterosexual encounters than women. First our wages and now this, eh?
According sexpert Isiah McKimmie, writing for News.com.au, the science suggests that 65 per cent of women usually orgasm during sex while 95 per cent men manage it, every time.
Worth noting that in lesbian relationships 86 per cent of women usually climax.
Plus, one in ten sexually active women have never had an orgasm at all.
Sexpert Isiah McKimmie, explained how women can help themselves alongCredit: Getty
Are orgasms important?
Put simply – YES.
News.com.au’s experts suggest that they contribute to greater sexual satisfaction, feelings of empowerment and increased sexual desire.
They said: “Increased sexual satisfaction can additionally have a positive impact on relationship satisfaction.
“Orgasms aren’t essential for enjoyable, satisfying sex. (I actually think this is one of the biggest sex myths we need to let go of.)
“But when you want to reach orgasm and just can’t quite get there, it can be frustrating and disappointing for both of you. Both people can end up feeling inadequate and ashamed.”
So why do we have The Orgasm Gap?
There are a few reasons. Firstly, there’s a lack of education in sexual pleasure.
A lot of women are unsure what they like and don’t believe that sex is there for their pleasure as well as their partner’s.
Plus a lot of women struggle to just say what it is they want between the sheets.
Isiah gives practical tips for sex that will improve your chances of climaxCredit: Alamy
What can be done?
Isiah explains that most women will be able to reach orgasm with a few practical steps.
First she suggests building anticipation throughout the day.
She said: “Sexy is a state of mind. Research shows that women who send their partners suggestive text messages throughout the day or wear sexy lingerie in anticipation of sex have an increased chance of reaching orgasm.”
Next up, Isiah suggested designating more time to foreplay.
She said: “One of the most common reasons women struggle to reach orgasm is that they don’t spend enough time on foreplay.
“Women’s bodies go through complex changes to prepare for sex. These changes help us avoid pain and increase pleasure. These changes take about 15 minutes.
“Spending at least 15-20 minutes significantly increases a women’s chance of orgasm and can improve enjoyment for both partners.”
And finally she suggests a combination of three “moves” to secure the big “O”.
Isiah said: “Research has found that when oral sex, hand-genital stimulation and deep kissing are included during foreplay, our chances of reaching orgasm are further increased.”
Meanwhile, a sexpert shared the four mistakes we’re all making in the bedroom and why you need to focus on “afterplay”.
Plus, this sexpert revealed the “sex window” men know nothing about and constantly miss with women on dates.
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