Busy schedules are no joke (Picture: Getty)
Between work, seeing friends and family, hobbies and life admin, it can seem like there aren’t enough hours in the day to fit everything in.
So, while it was once the top priority of single icons like Bridget Jones and Carrie Bradshaw, finding love has fallen down the pecking order for many today.
According to Tinder’s Future of Dating report for 2023, 51% of global users between the ages of 18 and 25 prefer to fit dating into their existing schedules rather than the other way around.
The app’s Global Relationship Insights Expert, Paul Brunson, says women in particular are slotting fleeting meet-ups into their days: a trend dubbed ‘stack dating’ or ‘errand dating’.
Young singles are beyond the era of spending ages getting ready and waiting fortheir ‘big date’. Now, they spot they have a spare hour between spin class and brunch with the gang, and use the free time to pencil in a match.
The dates themselves may include a quick breakfast or lunch, coffee, or a walk on the way to somewhere else.
Some people even book multiple dates in a row to make the most of open spots in their calendar, while 32% of Gen Z Tinder users said they meet up for dates during the working day.
Speaking to Cosmopolitan, Paul called stack dating ‘important and empowering,’ adding: ‘Most of us sit back and wait for someone to choose us. But with stack dating, what you’re saying is, “I have a limited amount of time in my schedule. I will proactively put the people I’m dating into a specific moment of my day or week.”
‘And when you’re interacting with romantic prospects more often, you’ll likely be more confident and sure of who you’ll be compatible with long-term.’
There are certainly benefits to taking the pressure off first dates (particularly if you’re prone to anxiety during the build-up) and this method ensures you’re both seeing each other in your natural state with no pomp and ceremony.
Plus, with a world of right-swipes at our fingertips, it makes sense not to waste time if the connection isn’t there.
It’s not the best way forward for everyone though. Not only do some people prefer a more leisurely vibe to dates, it can dull the romance or feel impersonal.
‘If you’re someone who struggles making decisions, having to choose between pursuing eight different dates you’ve had can be difficult,’ adds Paul.
Regardless of whether you’re stack dating or not, it’s important not to treat dates like a faceless ‘option’ amid a conveyer belt of matches.
Even if you can only offer a short amount of time, a little effort (even just asking them questions about themselves and being engaged) is the least you can do to make your potential new partner feel appreciated.
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