Understanding Slow Fade
A SLOW fade is a dating term that has become more widespread in 2023 to describe an unpleasant phenomenon.
But what does it mean and how can you tell if it’s happening to you? Here’s all you need to know.
The slow fade is a dating phenomenon similar to ghostingCredit: Getty
What does slow fade mean?
A slow fade is a form of bad dating behaviour, similar to ghosting.
In contrast to a ghost, who cuts off contact suddenly without warning, partners who employ the slow fade stretch the process out.
It involves gradually and steadily decreasing contact with a love interest until the relationship just peters out.
The tactic is usually employed when the decision to end the relationship is not mutual, but one partner wants to avoid a row and a messy breakup.
While it might seem kinder than ghosting, it can be just as, if not more, painful for the other partner as their love life collapses around them in slow motion over a period of weeks or even months.
Do guys come back after the slow fade?
It really depends on why the guy has pulled the slow fade.
If he did it to see if the grass was greener with someone else, but ended up regretting that choice he may come crawling back.
Other reasons to return might be general doubts about his reasons for ending the relationship or feeling of guilt around it.
However, none of these is a particularly good basis for a stable relationship, so a guy returning from a slow fade should be treated with some caution, no matter how badly you want him back.
How to respond to a slow fade?
The important thing when responding to a slow fade is not to get too angry or obsessive about it.
For example, don’t rush into responding to messages or confronting him.
Try and keep things friendly but don’t fall straight back into his arms or rush into seeing him again.
Most of all, it is important to recognise the fact that the relationship may not be the one for you and be prepared to move on.
Is he slow fading or am I just overthinking?
There are certain red flags that can suggest that your partner is slow fading.
Warning signs include taking more time to respond to your messages and receiving shorter and less enthusiastic responses when they do come.
If they become vague and distant, or consistently fail to initiate conversation, it can be a sign of a slow fade.
Watch out for whether they still make concrete plans with you, too.
For example, asking if you want to ‘go out sometime’ is very non-committal, as opposed to suggesting a place, time, day or activity.
Similarly, if he keeps you around but fails to make you a priority, blowing off plans to do something he’d prefer, it can be a sign that he’s not that interested.
Most of all, trust your gut and if you feel like you’re getting slow faded you can take appropriate action or try and come to terms with the end of the relationship.
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