When considering your options for virtual sex, there are a lot of different factors to consider. Two of the most popular kinds of virtual sex are phone sex and sexting. But before you dive into one, let’s talk about which type you’ll enjoy more, as well as which type you might be better at.
Turn-ons – For Both You and Your Partner
There is a myth that men are more visually stimulated than women. The truth is that every gender has a wide variety of turn-ons, and they are more related to your personality than anything else. Our culture is so visually oriented that many people may assume that’s what their biggest turn-on is, when in fact, it’s something completely different.
Think about your past. Have you been more likely to fall in love with the sound of someone’s voice on the radio or a character in a book or an article written by a celebrity? Many people are auditorily stimulated, and others are moved by words. Ask your partner what they like better, too. This info will help when deciding whether phone sex or sexting is what you want to try.
Your Skills
Do you tend to fumble when giving a presentation? Or are you at a loss for words when writing a detailed report? Some people are naturally better at talking, and others are better at writing. If you are good at forming your sexiest thoughts quickly and feel comfortable saying them out loud, you might be amazing at phone sex. But if you like to think about how you want to respond and don’t like to hear your fantasies come out of your mouth, sexting might be the better option for you.
Also, consider how you feel about exchanging nudes. Sometimes, sending a sexy pic is part of a sexting encounter. If you want this option, you might prefer sexting, as phone sex keeps the other person’s physical appearance a mystery—and yours, too. If you decide that you want the option to send nudes, watch this professional talk about how to wow your partner with your pics.
Sexual Boundaries
Whether or not phone sex or sexting is considered cheating will depend on the sexual boundaries you’ve set with your partner. If you’re in a relationship and your partner is okay with you experimenting as long as you don’t see the other person, phone sex might be a good option. On the other hand, if your partner doesn’t want you doing anything one-on-one, neither might work. Talk to your partner so you don’t end up doing something regrettable.
Timing
Your schedule and how you feel about timing will influence whether you prefer sexting or phone sex, too. If you’re very busy, sexting might work a little better because you can shoot off a text when you have the time. You can also read the texts you receive when it’s convenient for you.
Phone sex is typically something you have to carve out time for. However, the benefit of this is that you receive responses in real-time. There’s something about hearing your partner’s immediate reaction to the sexy thing you just said that builds anticipation so well. Without time to think, phone sex gives you a gut-level response that is often more honest and a lot less inhibited than the conversations you have during sexting.
Further, if you’re an anxious person and waiting for your partner to respond will bother you, phone sex might be the better option. Sometimes there will be minutes or even a couple of hours between sexts—especially if your partner is at work. Will the anticipation turns you on, or will it turn into a fight? The answer to that might help you determine which sexual activity you’re more cut out for.
Intimacy
Sexting can be completely anonymous. You don’t have to see the other person’s face, hear their voice, or even know their name. However, that high level of anonymity doesn’t appeal to everyone. And there’s something very intimate about hearing someone else’s voice during erotic playtime. Whether anonymity or intimacy appeals to you more is an important factor in your decision.
The Best Way to Determine If You’ll Like Phone Sex or Sexting Better – Try It Out
Your mother was right when she said you’ll never know what you like until you try it. So, if you don’t already have a phone sex or sexting partner, find one online and get started experimenting.
