A BRIDE has divided opinions after accusing her newlywed brother of upstaging her at her rehearsal dinner.
The man explained that his sister didn’t approve of people asking about his elopement and asked him to not wear his wedding ring on the day of her ceremony.
A man has divided opinions after announcing his marriage around the same time of his sister’s weddingCredit: Getty
He penned a lengthy post on Reddit venting about his sister accusing him of “hijacking” her marriage celebration.
He wrote: “My sister (29f) got married last Saturday.
“The ceremony was beautiful and I enjoyed myself as much as someone who is famously not a wedding guy could.
“The dramatics were not quite as enjoyable.
“I (27m) hadn’t seen my family in a few months, and we’ve only had a handful of phone calls over the course of those months.
“It’s never on purpose that I pull one of these disappearing acts, it’s mostly out of habit.”
The man described himself as “fiercely independent” and said he easily forgets to keep in contact with anyone whom he isn’t spending time with regularly.
He said he likes visiting his family when there are big events because his mom is usually less focused on hovering around him.
He explained that he had spent around eight months in Ireland before flying home for his sister’s wedding.
He wrote: “I was originally there to spend two weeks with my best friend who, thanks to the aforementioned one-track mindedness I possess, I had unfortunately grown apart from within recent years.
“Ours was a friendship that had started when we were 14 and was one of the most important relationships in my life for over a decade.
“I wanted to put more effort into it so I didn’t lose it.
“He was spending time overseas to reconnect with his heritage since his father’s passing.
“I was already traveling, and my stay obviously turned out to be a lot longer than two weeks.
“It also turned into us getting married. Funny how life works out.
“About two weeks before our trip to the States for my sister’s wedding, I sent out a mass email to close family letting them know that me and my husband were married.
“I wanted to assuage any possibility of us ‘stealing any thunder’ right from the get-go.
“My mom replied that she was hurt that she wasn’t told sooner or allowed to be there, which I understood.”
The man said his mom’s mood had lifted by the time he saw her at his sister’s rehearsal dinner.
He continued: “My mom was overjoyed to see me and my partner and spent a large part of the night telling stories.
“She had always predicted there was something different about my friendship with him compared to others I was close with in high school.
“It was a very sweet moment.
“But at the end of the night, my sister pulled me aside and asked if we would not wear our wedding rings to her ceremony.
“I was confused, so I asked why.
“She said I was taking the attention off her and she was already bitter that I ‘hijacked’ her rehearsal dinner.
“More family might take notice if I wore my ring tomorrow and cause a similar incident. I refused.
“Like I mentioned before, the ceremony was beautiful but she didn’t speak to me for the rest of the weekend and we ended up leaving the reception early.
“AITA [am I the a**hole]?”
Responses to the post were torn on whether the man was wrong to announce his marriage around the time of his sister’s wedding.
One person commented: “YTA [you are the a**hole].
“You were married for three months and you chose to announce your marriage just two weeks before your sister’s wedding.
“Then her rehearsal dinner became you and your spouse’s debut not only as a couple but as a married couple.
“I don’t think people’s lives should be on hold but I do think that when it comes to milestones events like a wedding, the guests of honor should have the entire spotlight to themselves and people shouldn’t take away from that.
“You had to know that handling things this way was going to take attention away from your sister’s big day.”
Another wrote: “YTA [you are the a**hole] you did hijack you sister’s night, not sure why you put it in quotation marks.
“You sent an email out two weeks before your sister’s wedding, which isn’t cool.
“You could have easily let everyone know months ago.
“You also let your mum drone on about you.
“A simple, ‘I appreciated your comments, but today is about sister, let focus on her.’”
Disagreeing, a third said: “NTA [not the a**hole].
“Guests talk to each other at weddings and catch up.
“Does your sister expect everyone to only be looking at and talking about her the whole time? Has she never been to a wedding?”
A fourth added: “NTA [not the a**hole], this is on your mother for going overboard, not you, and she’s the one your sister should have taken issue with.”
The bride asked her brother not to wear his wedding ring to her ceremonyCredit: Getty