A WOMAN has taken to Reddit to complain after being given a long list of “birthday month expectations” from her husband ahead of his 30th.
The woman, who chose to stay anonymous, explained that she understands that her spouse “rightfully” wants to feel “special on this occasion”.
The man said he wanted to do absolutely nothing on his birthday month, including all choresCredit: Getty – Contributor
However, while she agreed to the idea of his birthday month requests in principal, she added that she “didn’t know what that meant til he started reading the list out loud which consists of things he expects from throughout the entire month”.
Posting on the website’s popular Am I The Asshole forum, the woman detailed some of his expectations, including “he is not to be asked to do any type of chores or clean or cook for a month”.
He also wants to be able to “play with his Xbox for hours on end without me interrupting or nagging him about it”.
The unreasonable requests continue with him requesting “not to pay his part of rent this month” and him “getting to go out with his friends whenever he wants”.
“In other words he wants a month long vacation and time off from his responsibilities as a partner and as a father,” she continued.
When she asked if he was being serious, he replied that this would only last for his “birthday month”.
She responded by stating that she “absolutely does not” agree to anything on the list, and called his expectations “out of line”.
She added that while they both work, she does “the majority of household chores and the majority of our son’s care as well as the majority of rent, bills and internet payments and I can not afford to do what he’s expecting me to do because we’re struggling already and I need his help especially now”.
When she argued that she wasn’t going to agree to his expectations, he “pitched a fit giving me grief about how I’m being selfish towards his wants and that in my place he would’ve agreed to do all he could to make my …(Birthday Month) the happiest month of the year for me”.
“He hasn’t stopped talking about how disappointed he was that I treat his birthday like that and has been avoiding being near me making me feel like maybe I went too far here,” she continued, questioning whether or not she was the one in the wrong in the situation.
But the majority of the comments were overwhelmingly in the woman’s favour, with one man writing: “Lol if I pulled that s**t on my wife I’d expect divorce papers for my birthday present.”
He also wanted to be able to play his video games console whenever he wanted with “no nagging” from his wifeCredit: Image Source – Getty
“The concept of ‘birthday month’ is when your life is so busy that trying to pack in all of your fave people into a day or a weekend isn’t actually realistic,” another person commented.
“And thus you connect over a few weeks or the month. It’s NOT a reason to not pay rent!!!”
Someone else agreed, writing: “No responsibilities for the actual day of your birthday is a reasonable ask – you can take one day off work, sleep in late, have your spouse responsible for all meals/childcare/domestic chores, go out with friends.
“That’s fair. Even one day to relax plus a separate dinner with friends if the birthday itself doesn’t work.
“But a whole month off? Not paying rent at all? That’s completely absurd. Hell no.”
Another person insisted the man was effectively “abusing” his wife by making the requests.
“A friendly reminder that forcing one’s partner into domestic drudgery and the majority of childcare is abuse,” they wrote.
“It’s not cute. It’s not a common gender issue that we can brush off with ‘heehee men!'”
“Nope. Your labor is being abused already and now he wants to nail that coffin shut with a month where he does even less.”
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