TELLING whether a man is a sex god or a sex clod might appear tricky to know until you get under the sheets.
Science says you can tell a good lover by the person’s personality – but there’s an easier wayCredit: Alamy
Blokes under that grouping are defined as ‘The Supported’ and are typically task-orientated, cautious, resistant to change and shy.
Easy, if you’re a boffin with a psychology degree. But sexpert Annabelle Knight says it doesn’t need to be that complicated.
She shares her top tips for spotting a bad lover a mile off through their body language and how they behave on a date.
How to spot if someone is BAD in bed
Out on a romantic date? Are they ready to get the bill before you’ve even picked up your fork?
Well, this could be a sign that they’re bad in bed. Those that rush through life, especially with things that should be enjoyed, such as food, are more likely to rush through intimacy too.
What they eat can also be a tell-tale sign as well. If the same thing is on the menu every time they go out, then chances are they’re less than exciting in the bedroom too!
If the idea of ‘taking things slow’ is completely alien to your potential new lover then this may indicate that they lack emotional experience.
Emotional understanding is key to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling sex life so without it, things can go awry.
Showing off about past conquests, how great in bed they are, or how many people they’ve slept with is a dead giveaway that a person isn’t a fantastic lover.
This sort of talk is usually a sign of insecurity and because of this is typically the behaviour of someone who is bad in bed.
Having a couple of drinks on a date is to be expected. For lots of people it can sooth nerves and helps them to have a better time.
But, if you’re new squeeze drinks a lot, and often, then this will affect their performance in the sheets.
Aside from the fact that alcohol can contribute to erectile dysfunction, sexual desire, and ability to perform, there’s also the added no-no of red wine teeth or beer breath in bed… and who wants that?
Variety is the spice of life, and that includes your sex life too.
Those that always air on the side of caution, avoid trying new things and rely on routine to get by, usually aren’t the best in bed either.
If you’re having to find a crowbar to get your potential new partner off the sofa then this could spell disaster for your sex life.
Low stamina in day-to-day life equates to low stamina in the bedroom, meaning that unless all you ever want is a quickie, you’re going to be left very disappointed.
How to spot if someone is GOOD in bed
If someone is a conversational wizard, then chances are they’ll be magic in bed too because the art of conversation relies on care and understanding.
If someone cares about your day and wants to understand you better through talking and questions, then chances are they’ll want to understand what works for you in bed too.
Studies show that eye contact can help stimulate desire and arousal, so if you’re dating someone who isn’t afraid of eye contact then you’re on to a winner.
Good eye contact can help to produce feel-good chemicals such as Oxytocin, which makes us feel great.
All of this contributes to a positive sexual experience and shows that your new love interest isn’t afraid of emotional intimacy, after all – the eyes are the windows to the soul.
Ring finger hint
A tell-tale sign that your potential new lover is good in bed is how they use their hands – someone who is dexterous in the streets is more likely to be fantastic in the sheets.
Scientists also believe that if your ring finger is equal to, or shorter than your index finger then you’ll be good in bed – what better excuse to get a little hands-on!
Having a good sense of humour is one of the key ingredients to being good in bed.
If your date can have a laugh, and laugh at themselves too, then things are looking good.
If you want proof, just take a look at Pete Davidson and Kim Kardashian – at least before the split!
The more comedic people are, the less likely they are to be bad in bed, as nothing will faze them – this extends to the bedroom too.
If someone is a good kisser, then it stands to reason that they’re good in bed too.
Kissing should be natural, it’s an intuitive act that doesn’t need rehearsal or directions.
If your new partner knows how to kiss, chances are they’ll know what they’re doing in bed.
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